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Should I be worried that my 57 year old husband was out last night with 2 women & a man in their 20's?

Last night my husband of 30 years went out for dinner with 3 younger coworkers(2 women,1man all in their 20's). They work for him at a college & were celebrating the end of the year. He came in before 11pm but had obviously been drinking a lot. He reeked of alcohol, tossed & turned, snored a little, slept some but seemed very restless &,what bothered me most, was he never tried to cuddle with me - and we always do that no matter how late he comes in. He's been out with these people during the year too & they all work together 10-12 hours a day at least 6 days a week. When I got up repeatedly during the night because his restlesness was waking me, he woke up but never said a word. He left for work an hour ago (now 5:30am) & barely kissed me goodbye, hardly said a word. Why am I so upset? Why was I crying whenever I got up? What am I missing here? Am I just being paranoid?

Public Comments

1. there's something going on or you wouldn't be feeling this way. changes in affection and sexual habits give it away. find out.
2. lmao....no this is funny. what 20 yr olds want to see a mans strange grey hair. Like santa balls...lmao...
3. You're missing an invitation to go with. It is doubtful anything happened that could not have happened with you there. However the mind can magnify a problem and turn it into a blunt force trauma to the emotions. Sounds like yours has been working over time. Suggest you sit down your inattentive husband tell him you're suffering and not happy about being left out. Ask if he will consider making a phone call and asking you to join in next time he parties with the young folks. Meanwhile take a nap exhaustion won't make it a nice chat it will turn things into a fight. Be attractive when you have the chat your best you will get invited out a shrew will sound shrill and bring out the beast in the old boy. Good luck!
4. Honey, I am sorry this is so upsetting to you, he really had a rough night and so did you, when he comes home today, when he is sober, you both need to talk. Give him time, the reason I am saying this is because my mom goes out and drinks and gets drunk and "kills a few brain cells" that night, and we can't even see her until noon the next day, yes, she has a problem, but I can't say anything to her, she lives with my grandmother and she has her own life. She is old enough to go by her own decisions. Give your husband time, to sober up and then communicate with him about last night. When you think about it, he really did not sleep well, did not know what he was and is doing this morning, and paying for what he did last night at work now, he is probably friends with the bathroom now, right now, if you know what I mean, and is not getting anything done!!!!! Just talk to him when he gets home, karma is so visiting him this morning!!!!!!!!
5. If these people work for him I wouldn't worry too much. With three people around all of whom surely know he's married he probably didn't do anything. He may have something on his mind that is making him restless. If he hasn't cheated in the past thirty years he isn't likely to start now. Have confidence in yourself and have confidence in him. Sounds like you had a rough night so pamper yourself today and Talk to him tonight. Don't call him, just wait and see how he acts. I'm sure things are just fine. He'll probably end up apologizing for being distant. When a drunk person tries to sleep its hard to get comfortable sometimes. This morning he might have just had a hang over. After thirty years...you know him best....
6. paranoid is the answer...
7. Hell i hope at 57 i have the energy to go out and party with people thirty years younger lol. Sorry i know your upset about this and I'm not trying to poke fun here. Has your husband ever given you any reason in the past to doubt him? If not maybe your making a big deal out of nothing. If your weary why not ask him if you can come along with them. Join in on the fun. If he resists or makes excuses then that should turn on the light bulb.