Memphis Business Daily

How do you deal with a backstabbing co worker B4 you even build up a network of support from other coworkers?

I work in the Media industry and in my last three jobs I have been the victim of workplace politics. I have been on the receiving end of backstabbing from people I considered friends, nepotism, and coworkers turning bosses against me before I've even had a chance to make a first impression. What makes it worse is that it has never been because of the quality of my work. At every job my boss has been very vocal about my work saying I'm doing a great job and trusting me with more responsibilities and creative control. Then, one day, that will suddenly change, they'll become cold and distant and start looking for excuses to fire me. Before I know it, I'll be gone. Sometimes I have suspected a backstabbing co-worker but it is so hard to find out what's really going on. Every time I enter a new job I come in with an open mind, I don't prejudge anyone and I act very professionally. I'm also not a doormat, I know politics is a fact of life, but this always seems to happen to me. What is it? I consider myself friendly I was even told so by some coworkers b4 all of this happened.I am not an extreme chatterbox, but not too quiet. I am unsure what went wrong. I do know the girl has made backhanded comments to me mainly about my clothes. She hinted to other co-workers that I might have a "boob job" even though it's not true. I wear tastleful clothes she hates me. I've been nothing but nice to her. I am usually careful about what I say I "think" b4 I speak....I just don't understand.

Public Comments

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2. Not knowing you or your personality it would be very hard for anyone to tell u why. What works for me is keeping my head down my mouth shut and doing what I am told.
3. Backstabbing is victim thinking. If what another person is doing is a lie, in the long term they will be found out. If you know about it and have facts to refute what they are doing take action and confront those who need to be confronted. Be ready to accept whatever the outcome maybe from this confrontation. Don't let fear of the outcome stop you from taking action. If the boss is willing to believe a lie, it isn't someone you want to be working for anyway. Without knowing more about your overall situation it is difficult to answer your question directly. That being said I can say this - As long as you think you are a victim or being victimized this will continue to happen to you. Know that there are no accidents in life and that you are a wonderfully powerful human being. What have you learned from these experiences that can help you prevent these things from occurring in the future? When things happen that I don't like or think are unfair I have to ask myself - What am I supposed to learn from this? Another thought process that has helped me is to know that maybe this happened to put me in a better situation.