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How do you say goodbye to coworkers when moving on to a new job?

How do you say goodbye on a Friday? At work. Do you simply say goodbye to your coworkers or something more?

Goodbye letter to coworkers? I have been a summer student for this company,and I'm going back to school in September even thought I didn't meet alot of people here, there are a few people in my department that i will like to say good bye to and thank them for their help..some of them are on holidays(so I can not say goodbye in person)...also I'd like to say that I'd like to come back once I have finish my studies..any ideas on how to write this letter, I want to keep it short and sweet. thanks Did I mentioned i am a student? yea I dont have money to buy prsents or treats...I am saving to pay my tuition...

what did i do to offend this person and how should I resolve the problem? i was saying goodbye to a coworker i told him to take care of that that crap he had not been feeling good for a while. he must have been talking to other coworkers and I did not realize that he was talking to other coworkers. he told me "you did not have to jump all over my ass in front of everyone"! and then he walked away very upset. will he talk to me again?

Have you ever been downsized or laid off, how was it done? Yesterday they laid off a large number of employees at my place of employment. They were alll told to report to a meeting in the conference room and then the HR Director told everyone they would be terminated immediately. I was shocked that they were not given a chance to go back to their offices and cubicles to say goodbye to their coworkers. Or were they able to get their things in their offices. Everyone was given two weeks of severance pay that will be direct deposited into their bank accounts. No more no less. All their things will be sent to them via federal expess. Many were in the middle of projects and had personal things on their computer. Others had meetings scheduled with clients and various activities planned for that afternoon. The whole thing was crazy. If you or friends were laid off or downsized, tell us how it was done at your company.

Would you quit a job you hated and got no respect at? I currently work as an admin while I finish graduate school. I've stuck it out for 2 years after numerous times of almost quitting. I will have to quit this job over the summer anyway to finish up my classes and also start student teaching in september. I hated this job from the get-go, butted heads with my boss over him pulling a bait and switch with this position and do not fit in at all with my coworkers. I tried many times but we're just different people. The office atmoshphe is very snobby and pretentious and the only way to get liked by any of the higher ups is to kiss behind which I don't do. I'm not good with small talk and am just quiet that's me. I get no respect from my boss either who treats me like I'm an idiot and I've overheard him making comments about me behind my back. I make good money but get given no work and get no respect. The only cons are that I can use my vacation days freely, don't get in troubl if I'm late, and my boss bascially don't care what I do lol. The peoople in my group only acknoweldge me if they need something, ie letting me kow it's someone's birthday and to get a birthday cake for them when I'm not friendly with any of them. My family doesn't quite get how much I hate this place and all I hear is oh the money. Last week as I was leaving I said goodbye to a coworker, I know he heard me and he said nothing back meanwhile this is the same person I was told to put together a collection for and buy a gift for his new kid. I have enough money saved to get by for a few months and since this won't be my career and I will be teaching in about a year or so I would rather just be a waitress or take any ole job considering I was gonna be quitting this one soon anyway. For once I want to be happy. What should I do?

How much trouble will i get into for this? ok so i just quit mcdonalds after 3 years because i just finished my degree and we had a manager that gave us 2 years of hell and after saying my goodbyes to my coworkers i went up to her and said cassie its been a long 2 years so go fuck yourself you biacth i hope you burn in hell and i hope your ugly kids get hit by a car and then i turned to leave and flipped her the bird with both my hands about 2 hours later the cops arrived and i got arrested for verbal assault and disorderly conduct and disturbing the peace so im wondering what amount of trouble am i going to get into for this??? i do have a notice to appear if that helps

Leaving my job. My coworkers were friends. Its a bummer. Any advice on how not to be so bummed? I got a new job and am excited about it. I dont know. Saying goodbye to friends is tough. I can visit though : )

my coworkers are leaving and i am sad.has anyone else gone through this? people i have known for a while have just picked up and decided they've had enough. I am really happy for them but inside i am sad too because i am so used to them. I've had this happen before and i didn't think i'd get past it but i did. alot quicker than i thought i would have. I feel like me wanting them to stay for me is selfish. and i am terrible with goodbyes. i know it will be tough for a little bit and i need to be strong but i don't know how to say goodbye without being upset. i know life goes on but has anyone else ever felt way before?how did you deal? I am thinking about my family and how much i love them and as long as i don't have to say goodbye to them,i don't understand why i am so sad?

What does this text message say? I took a coworker on two dates this past week, but she is leaving the country for good on monday. The dates went really well, and I told her that basically it's a shame she is leaving, as I think we have a lot in common, and she agreed. On her last day, I was away from my desk when she left early, so she sent me a text message on her way out saying - "didn't you where you were, but I had to go run errands". How should I read this? Should I call her today before she leaves? Is she creeped out by me, so that's why I only got a text with no "goodbye", or does the fact that there is no goodbye possibly mean she is expecting to talk to me again?

how do i handle my coworker? when i first started my coworker gave me several compliments and told me i was doing a really great job. she covers for me during breaks. at those times we would make a little bit of small talk. she would ask me questions and i would ask her some too. after a few weeks the compliments diminished. which is understandable i guess because the newness of my being there wore off. also she has started to small talk less to me also. im the one that asks how she is doing, etc. she is polite by saying hi and goodbye to me but that is it. when other coworkers come by she will smile and talk with them a lot more than she does with me. do you think she doesn't like me or doesn't want to get to know me better? also she has a way of belittling me even though she asked me if ever i have any questions feel free to ask her and when i do she makes me feel like i should have already known the answer without asking her. i feel a little strange around her now. im like not excited to see her. i get a weird vibe. i know we cant click with everyone but how should i act with her. should i be more vocal and ask more or is this her sign that she doesnt want me to talk more? maybe im reading too much into it. what do you think?

Do you see them, too? IDIOTS IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD: I live in a semi-rural area. We recently had a new neighbor call the local township administrative office to request the removal of the Deer Crossing sign on our road. The reason: "too many deer were being hit by cars" and he didn't want them to cross there anymore. This one was from Kingman, KS. IDIOTS IN FOOD SERVICE: My daughter went to a local Taco Bell and ordered a taco. She asked the person behind the counter for "minimal lettuce." He said he was sorry, but they only had iceberg. And he was a Kansas City chef! IDIOT SIGHTING: I was at the airport, checking in at the gate when an airport employee asked, "Has anyone put anything in your baggage without your knowledge? To which I replied, "If it was without my knowledge, how would I know? He smiled knowingly and nodded, "That's why we ask." Happened in Birmingham, Ala. IDIOT SIGHTING: The stoplight on the corner buzzes when it's safe to cross the street. I was crossing with an intellectually challenged coworker of mine when she asked if I knew what the buzzer was for. I explained that it signals blind people when the light is red. Appalled, she responded, "What on earth are blind people doing driving?!" She was a probation officer in Wichita, KS IDIOT SIGHTING: At a goodbye luncheon for an old and dear coworker who was leaving the company due to "downsizing," our manager commented cheerfully, this is fun. We should do this more often." Not a word was spoken. We all just looked at each other with that deer-in-the-headlights stare. This was a bunch at Texas Instruments. IDIOT SIGHTING: I work with an individual who plugged her power strip Back into itself and for the life of her couldn't understand why her system would not turn on. A deputy with the Dallas County Sheriff's office no less. IDIOT SIGHTING: When my husband and I arrived at an automobile dealership to pick up our car, we were told the keys had been locked in it. We went to the service department and found a mechanic working feverishly to unlock the driver's side door. As I watched from the passenger side, I instinctively tried the door handle and discovered that it was unlocked. "Hey," I announced to the technician, "it's open!" To which he replied, "I know - I already got that side." This was at the Ford dealership in Canton, Mississippi! They walk among us .. AND REPRODUCE!!!

i kissed my coworker...now what? ive liked my coworker for a while now. hes so great and we have a lot in common. we've gotten together before but nothing happened afterwards and i eventually got into a relationship for a little over a year. we talk a lot at work and text each other, he calls me "beautiful" and we've talked about hanging outside of work. i recently got out of my relationship and have been thinking about my coworker constantly. so on Saturday when i went to say goodbye to him, he gave me a hug (like usual) and then i gave him a quick kiss on the cheek. he didnt say anything about it, just told me to have a good night. ill see him again at work tomorrow and i kinda dont know how to act now. do i say something? should i wait for him to say something? any advice would be very much appreciated, thanks.

How guilty should i feel for being the person somebody cheated with? about two months ago, i was at a coworkers house, and we were drinking and smoking weed and what not. later, he got tired and went up to bed leaving just me and his wife. one thing led to another, and we had some awesome hot sex on the couch - both of us doing everything we could not to make any noise. then i started feeling bad. then, two weeks ago he gives notice, and i get an email at my work acount from none other than his wife. she said she was glad i didn't say anything, and that the sex was the best she's had in a really long time. she said for a young guy like me to be that into her made her feel like a million bucks. she then basically said goodbye forever, and told me she'd remember me always. so i kind of felt proud, like i gave it to her better then her husband did. then i felt bad for even thinking it. any ideas on how i should think of this whole thing?

Why am I attracted to everything wrong?! Leo, younger, coworker, player? My husband & I have been together over 8 yrs & are separated. I really don't want a relationship, but I thought I was ready for a little "fun" on the side. I can typically detach myself sexually (not that it's something I have run into a lot in my past, I just don't usually get very attached). Anyways, I'm 27 & I met a coworker. We are both leos... exactly 1 week apart but he's only 26. What's wrong?? WELL, I've never laid eyes on a coworker EVER (we are able to date coworkers there), and I've NEVER dated or even laid eyes on somebody even a day younger than myself. We are both in pretty much the exact same relationship situation & each have 1 child. When we first met about 3-4 months ago we would flirt with our eyes & smiles & what not. Then he emailed me at work from work. We were flirting & after a couple weeks started hooking up (not actual intercourse tho). Things were cool, fun, exciting, interesting. We had the BEST conversations. I would say things & he would understand entirely & when he would talk, vice versa, I would be blown away @ how well I actually "got" him. So many things about us are similar & we think an awful lot alike... that was crazy!! never had that before. We would sit with each other at lunch ocassionally & he would email me afterwards saying how much he enjoys our convos & crazy how we are so much alike & he showed interest in meeting up with me. About 1 month ago we actually had sex. He was cool right after but the 2 weeks following that he was real distant & said he just had home stuff on his mind. Our lunch convos nearly stopped. I would email him & he wouldn't always respond. Then after that 2 wks it's like he just snapped right out of it. He was flirting & emailing & we met up. Fooled around 1 day, had sex the next. Almost immediately after the sex he got cold, so to speak, but he did give me hugs goodbye & said next time will be even more fun. I felt a little self concious, like what did I do? Did I come on too strong? whats up? I didn't talk to him about it cuz we're not together, nor is the intention there. Of course I have a crush on him, but my focus is not on a relationship right now. I just wanna keep things how they were. The next day at work he came up at lunch (friday) & briefly rubbed my shoulders & talked for a min. He was cool. Then monday came... totally quiet, wouldn't really talk. Then tuesday & wednesday... I tried to sit w/him @ lunch & we really didn't talk... awkward. I emailed him tues complimenting him up the wazzoo, cuz he said he had a lot on his mind & was having probs with his daughter & at home & finances, etc. I just wanted to make him smile. he didn't respond... that's ok tho. Then wed I emailed him asking if everythigns ok, nothing big. no response. I ignored him thursday. Then friday I emailed him asking if I did something. & I don't want him to "take" me the wrong way, that I just want a good time & good convo which I thot we were having both. I wasn't rude or forceful. Just explained how I was feeling at the moment. no response. Then yesterday, I ignored him til the end of the day, didn't sit by him at lunch, no emails, til the very end of the day. i told him looked nice in the red shirt he was wearin & sorry (very brief) for being so sensitve last week. He said thanks & no need for apologies. that was that. I thot ok, maybe he snapped back, so this morning I emailed him good mornng.. no response. I saw him at lunch but didn't look twice or talk to him. Then he came thru my department & smiled at me. So, I emailed him that again he looks yummy... no response. WTF??? I gave it ONE more try & told him i have a REALLY "good" idea & if he was interested in knowing more to just ask for details.. NO RESPONSE (he use to respond!!!). He's younger, a coworker, a fellow leo, a player (which I don't judge cuz I'm very similar in that dept), an athlete, EVERYTHING WRONG for me!!! yet, why do I care about this situation? I know better!! It's like, the more he ignores me the more I fall for him!! I understand that leos like the chase, but I don't wanna get played!! How can I get him to "chase" me again & get that spark back so we can have some fun again? I realize it been just shy of 2 wks since our rendevous, but damn, I don't like this. Why is he acting this way & What should I do to either get him "back" so-to-speak or just get over him??

Anyone know someone who is always vindictive? Sorry this is going to be long. I am not a vindictive person. I am actually surprised by the amount of times where I have actually just let things go and always acceped the proverbial "olive branch" when others have done things that I did not like. But I realized over the last couple of years just how vindictive other people can be if you do the same things to them that they are always dishing out. For example, I worked at a store a couple of years ago. There was a coworker who was a bit weird but I always tried to get along with him even though I knew he was weird and I could have probably reported him a couple of times for his behavior and he more than likely could have been fired if I had reported him. So one day, I got angry at another coworker and said something mean and hurtful. I felt guilty about it and intended to apologize to that coworker. But because of the rampant gossip in the workplace, what I said got back to this "weird" coworker. So a couple of days later, I had finally had enough of the weird coworker and I told him that I no longer wanted to talk to him. So he accuses me of being "hard to get along with". I then told him that he was always hard to get along. Well, he got angry because I accused him of the same thing that he was accusing of me. Well, because the store was small, everyone else in the store heard the confrontation. Another coworker took the weird coworkers side and made a comment about me. I had basically had enough of all the crap, so I went to the supervisor to tell her that I was done with the job. I had basically gotten sick and tired of the negative working environment. So the weird coworker, who happened to be nearby basically dismisssed me, saying "Goodbye. Leave." So I replied by saying that "You should have been gone a long time ago", because he had been fired and rehired on two previous occasions. Well after I said what I said, the guy tried to physically attack me because he felt like he had more power in the situation. Well, I left the store after that. A few months later, I started to think about all of his bad behaviors that I had tolerated. There was one situation where he literally pointed his finger at me and started a screaming match with me (this is when I was still working at the store), I could have reported him for that. So a few months after quitting the job, I was still angry about the whole situation. I felt like getting a little revenge so I wrote a letter to my old employer and let them know about this weird coworkers bad behavior, things that he had said and done, how he thought that he was the one running the show, and how manipulative he was. I figured that since they had fired him twice before for infractions, that this was sure to go over real well and they would probably fire him again because alot of the stuff that I wrote about him was stuff that they had no idea about. They pretty much viewed him as the "ideal" employee because of his "helpful" attitude...more like controlling. Has anyone ever dished the dirt on someone who was so self-righteous and "evil".

Should I tell Straight coworker I have feelings for him? I am a 21 year old gay male and as of the last two months I realized that I have very deep feelings for my coworker. I know he is straight because he dated and is still in love with another fellow female cowork who just happens to be a friend of mine as well. He’s a bit older at 29 and from another country, so as much as he understands me there is still a language barrier. The situation is now I am finding it harder and harder to hide my feelings. We have been working together for five months and I never saw him like this….it just clicked with me one night and I was stunned. He is a very sweet, kind guy and very funny so he is easy to get along with. I find myself going overboard to help him with things, and be around him as much as I can. The thing is two people I have spoke about him with told me they had the feeling he was gay or bi….I don’t see it and I since he makes it clear by the way he speaks about past girlfriends and knowing he dated my friend put the whole “is he gay” question out of my head. The real thing I want to ask is, should I tell him? I think he knows, I have been told that it is very obvious. I just don’t want to ruin our friendship and freak him out. He was raised by his mother and sisters so that seemed to have given him a soft side but you never know how someone will take the news. We did a “Secret Santa” this year at the job but I went head and got him a gift even though I didn’t pick his name out. He surprised me the night we were to give the gifts by telling me he got me something, but he wanted to know which one I wanted out of three calendars he had gotten (two for the person he had picked). Two of the three were those “sexy” firemen and cop ones and the other was just one of New York City. I think I had to have turned bright red and all I could do was smile, I had never discussed my sexual preference before with him so I was kind of excited yet freaked that he asked me. He told me to think about it and let him know…I never did and he didn’t bring it up again. He gave me the NY one and I was kind of glad. I was shocked that at the end of the night as we said our Christmas goodbyes I was the only one he gave a hug too around all of our fellow workers. Two weeks later a few people from the crew went out after our shift and we all started to say goodbye and everyone started to hug. This time he seemed kind of freaked and gave me a half hearted one… We had plans twice to hang out with his ex and both times she had to canceled. I would say “if you still want to do something even if she cant come let me know” and he never responded. He sends me emails from his other job with a few words, but I look forward to them. It’s almost like he’s being nice to me because he knows how much I like him. Yet he always brings up how young I am. He is only 29 so I don’t know why he thinks its such a big age difference. So what should I do, tell him and hope it doesn’t ruin our friendship? Or hide my feelings and go crazy. I just don’t want him to think that all the tings I do for him is out of lust, and that I just want more from him then his friendship

how guilty should i feel for being the person somebody cheated with? about two months ago, i was at a coworkers house, and we were drinking and smoking weed and what not. later, he got tired and went up to bed leaving just me and his wife. one thing led to another, and we had some awesome hot sex on the couch - both of us doing everything we could not to make any noise. then i started feeling bad. then, two weeks ago he gives notice, and i get an email at my work acount from none other than his wife. she said she was glad i didn't say anything, and that the sex was the best she's had in a really long time. she said for a young guy like me to be that into her made her feel like a million bucks. she then basically said goodbye forever, and told me she'd remember me always. so i kind of felt proud, like i gave it to her better then her husband did. then i felt bad for even thinking it. any ideas on how i should think of this whole thing?

Should I text or call him? Or just ignore him until he contacts me first?? HELP!? I've been dating this guy for a couple months and we've been spending a lot of time together and telling each other how much we like one another. A few days ago he went on a trip for work and was definitely excited about all the partying he would be able to do with his coworkers after hours. I drove him an hour and a half to the airport, & kissed goodbye. He called me when he was still in the airport to say thanks for the ride. And I called him on my way home because I was falling asleep on the drive. He of course said to be careful, and he would call me later. That was Saturday night. It's now Tuesday night and I still haven't heard from him... no call/text, nothing. I am upset that it's been 4 days and I haven't heard anything, especially since the last he heard of me I was falling asleep on the road. I'm supposed to pick him up a week from now. Should I just hold out until he calls, should I go ahead and contact him, or what? We're not together so I technically can't be mad, but I feel like he should've had the courtesy to contact me. Suggestions/comments please!! (Especially guys).

Should I text or call him? Or just ignore him til he finally contacts me? Or what? Background: I've been dating this guy for a couple months and we've been spending a lot of time together and telling each other how much we like one another. A few days ago he went on a trip for work and was definitely excited about all the partying he would be able to do with his coworkers after hours. I drove him an hour and a half to the airport, & kissed goodbye. He called me when he was still in the airport to say thanks for the ride. And I called him on my way home because I was falling asleep on the drive. He of course said to be careful, and he would call me later... Problem: That was Saturday night. It's now Wednesday and I still haven't heard from him... no call/text, nothing. I am upset that it's been 4 days and I haven't heard anything, especially since the last he heard of me I was falling asleep on the road. I'm supposed to pick him in 5 days. Should I just hold out until he calls, should I go ahead and contact him, or what? We're not together so I technically can't be mad, but I feel like he should've had the courtesy to contact me. Suggestions/comments please!! (Especially guys). Um... Who's Kyle?

Does my coworker like me back? i am pretty shy but i think that my coworker knows that i like him and i think he likes me but is maybe just shy. -When we are in groups he talks a lot but when we are alone together he seems to not say much. -He seems to compliment me a lot and we like the same things/share the same humor. -We both are really nice to each other/do favors for each other I'm torn because there are days that he talks to me and stays around until i am done with my work to leave (but then never makes a move) and then there are days that he hardly talks to me and bolts before i can even say goodbye. Is there a possibility that he likes me and is just trying to make it less obvious to avoid embarrassment or is he just not interested? any advice on how to: -tell if he likes me -if i should ask him out or move on Thanks :) My work is really chill and wouldn't mind interoffice relationships...and i was asking if this guy liked me not if dating a coworker is ethical

How to make my bf appreciate me more?? I feel like i am unappreciated in my relationship w/ my bf. We have been together for 8 months now, and I dont feel like he puts in the effort like he used to. Now when we are on the phone w/ each other he says he'll call back in a minute (but doesnt for an hour, that happen twice yesterday, almost 3 times), after we were fooling around b4 i left we went out to say goodbye and hugged..he practically just nugged me away and didnt even kiss me goodbye and was sayin how if i play my cards right we'll hang out w/ each other and how he always plays his cards right (he was kinda joking but still), and even tho i am deeply disapproving of one of his coworkers and the passes and remarks she makes towards him he doesnt even care that it bothers me nd now makes excuses for her, always says hot hot the girls are on tv or his coworkers but never cares to compliment me, didnt help me bring school stuff back in the AM b/c it would b a waste of his time to stand in line (there wasnt one), etc. And he says how I would never break up w/ him and how I couldn’t live w/ out him (sometimes joking but still), and I am not a very confrontational person but I feel like I need to start being more assertive, and he knows that I am a very shy and passive person. And I’m pretty sure he knows that I am willing to do w/e he wants/needs in a second b/c I am just nice like that and can put others before me. So how can I make him appreciate me more w/out coming out nd saying it?? I was thinking of just going out to dinner w/ my friends tonight instead of hanging out w/ him and then watching a movie w/ my friends that my bf has been saying he’ll watch w/ me but hasn’t yet for like the past 2 maybe 3 weeks (he almost did rent it but the movie is out, and he said we would watch it last night but his mom took it back, but he just doesn’t want to pay the $2 to rent a movie from Safeway that he doesn’t want to see).

Guys, why do you give mixed signals?? Long story, guy went out of his way to know me but had a long distance gf. I finally told him I was confused about things & I needed to not be as close to him since he had a gf & they'd been together awhile now. My friend told him he sent me mixed signals so he should stop doing that. He told me he wanted to just be friends. I took him at his word but it was back to his old behavior soon after. He wanted to be with me all the time, we had a favorite team day at work & he made a home made one to wear & laid it on my desk & said it was for me. And on Fridays when it was time for him to leave & go see her he came by to say goodbye & told me he really didn't even want to go. He works somewhere else now & is still so confusing so I told him goodbye. Our only contact is him still playing in our work fantasy sport leagues. He doesn't keep in contact with any old coworkers. So why didn't he stop confusing me? Guys how much do you care about a girl you give mixed signals to?

Getting over married ex-coworker? At first it was harmless flirting (emails, verbal) between the two of us.People told me he had a thing for me.After awhile I realized I had a crush on him.One night when he took me home he started touching me in a sexual way.I didn't respond because I was afraid of what it might lead to.We never discussed that nite.Slowly he stopped paying attention to me.My crush on him grew I knew I had to get over it.I decided to tell him how I felt.Maybe hearing his response would help.He said he can't and doesn't want to hurt me.He denied feeling any attraction and wants to be friends.I accepted.When I got offered a new job he urged me to leave, said we would remain friends.He did not show up to say goodbye to me.I tried to keep in touch, he said its best not to, said I knew why.I have no idea! I'm hurt. I want to get over him!Why do u think he doesn't want to keep in touch?Do you think he has feelings for me and doesn't want to admit it?

how do i know if she likes me the same way? A couple months back, I met this girl at work. We talked and got to know each other a little bit and found we had some things in common. Slowly I started to like her, more as a friend at first, and then one day, about a month ago, I finally got the nerve to ask her to hang out (outside of work) and she said yes. We ended up laughing the whole night away, and when I brought her home she asked if it was okay to hug me, it was so cute. I even told her she doesn't need permission, and now she hugs me anytime we have to say goodbye, even randomly sometimes. We've gone out a few more times since then and now any time I see her, my heart pounds so hard in my chest I swear she's gonna hear it. Even worst, my coworkers have seen how I get when I'm near her and harass me about it, saying what a great couple we make. The thing is I haven't asked her to by my girlfriend or anything, yet. When people ask me why not, I simply tell them I'm scared she'll say no or that she just wants to "be friend", and they'll tell me in response that she's giving me the same look and not to worry about it. What should I do? Does she REALLY like me like that? How should I go about asking her so that if she does say no, I wouldn't look like a total idiot?

How to react when you get your butt smacked? I went to a BBQ with a bunch of coworkers and one of them ran by and smacked my butt, he's married and was there with his baby but not his wife. I was pretty shocked and embarrassed so I didn't do or say anything. He later said in a joking manner in front of others hey did you enjoy that as much as I did and I said uhh no! I was really weirded out so soon after I said goodbye to everyone and left. I've decided to no longer go out with them to avoid that type of situation, am I over reacting? I just don't want them to think that Im slutty or enjoy playing around like that.

Problem with coworker? I used to smoke cannibas last year, and my crew chief noticed I was a bit hazy sometimes, or slow. I havent smoked it since new-years now, yet every chance he gets to attempt to how my incompetence i.e. using sarcasm he strikes. Heres what happened today. I asked if we were to put the flowers in the cube-van to bring back to shop (I work in horticulture), and he said yes, the cube van that isnt here anymore, put the flowers in that...then he went on to say the person driving that had been talking to him within earshot about leaving us and their next location, and that theyd said goodbye...I didnt hear them. It makes me feel bad, and I want it to change... =/

I can't deal with this anymore.? It wasn't supposed to be like this. I'm finished. I'm done. I think I'll just exit stage left. I can't deal with this bullshit of life anymore. I'm originally from the East Coast - Maryland, but I'm now living on the West Coast - California. I came out here because I was tired of my parents after high school, so I just left and tried to carve my own path - unsuccessfully. Throughout my life and up to high school since I graduated last year I have been treated like crap. I got no respect whatsoever in school. Every girl I knew rejected me even to go to the Senior Prom. I ended up not going. All my friends went to college, while I didn't. They lived out their dreams. I just ended up coming out here, miles away from an unsatisfactory existence in my old hometown. I thought I'd be happier here, but I'm not. I'll never forget when I told my parents I was driving to California to start a new life. My dad was reading the newspaper, and he was like "ok." And continued. My mom was like "have fun." When I left, they said goodbye. No hugs, no kisses. I've been in California since July of last year. The road trip was fun. I got no phone calls, no letters, no nothing from my parents. I haven't talked to them since I left I guess it was true, they don't like me. Apparently, I heard my grandpa say "Good riddance" and my parents basically said the same thing plus they're glad I'm gone and out of their way. Now, I work for a computer company out here in Silicon Valley, it's alright. I can afford my own apartment and such. I still get treated like crap, even at work. I get disrespected so much by my coworkers. This really beautiful chick I had my eye on for a while rejected me too and told me she was single, but ended up accepting another guy who asked her out after me. Live just continues to suck. It seems like there's nothing good that can come out of life anymore. I look at all these people who have great lives and I just envy them. I never got to have that. I never will. I can't see how some people can be so happy by life. It sucks. It's meaningless. So, I proposed a solution. Since I'm 19, I went and got a gun. It's a really powerful gun. I plan to just obliterate myself with it. Then this crappy life will be over and it will be great. Nonexistence is alot better than trying to survive this hell, day to day. There's no point in living. My parents SURE don't give a damn about me. I have no friends. I have no concrete reason to continue living. I have no hope. I'll just merge a bullet with my brain and then I'll die here, 2000 miles away from home. I don't believe in God anymore either, so don't give me that crap of "I'm going to hell". I stopped believing in God last year. I just felt like I needed to get this off of my chest before the end.

What does this dream mean? I had a dream that it was halloween or some similar event and I was one of the only people who could fly. (btw I almost always have dreams about flying and telekinesis) I had to go somewhere but I could choose. I think the choices were a pizza place, a church, and something else, maybe another church. then I met this old man and we became good friends Very quickly. we had to go places in this nice car that i could make fly with my mind. as we traveled there was something I had to take care of, like a autistic child or an animal or something that was helpless but i never really looked at it. it was just there. We went to a somewhat run-down town. then we went through some vortex thing and we were at a small restaurant or food stand or something and it was time to say goodbye to the old man and i would never see him again, but I didn't want to. then my dream changed and I was driving a SUV still with the child (or something) I had to take care of. I drove around then went into a store to buy supplies to live off of and take care of the child. Then i stole a blanket without meaning to and left the store. In the parking lot I saw my brother and a bunch of his friends hanging out and goofing off. I started to drive away but then I realized that I didn't know how to drive. Then my dreamed somewhat changed and I didn't have a child to take care of and i started flying. I stopped after a while and flew down to a stationary bus on the highway. I went inside it and there was someone in there who was like me. he could fly like me andthought like I did, and movethings with his mind like i could. we didn't talk but he was as intrigued by me as i was of him. I wanted to get out of the bus so i just flew through the roof. Then there was that helpless thing i had to take care of again. so i went out to get a job at this zoo. the zoo was in the middle of nowhere, where the ground was dry and cracked. the zoo was verry dumpy and dirty and poor. my brother got a job there too. he worked in the big wild animal pastures. I got a job in the reptile room, which was a room on top of long (about 200ft) stilts. I questioned whether it was safe but i knew i needed the job to take care of the helpless child. I went up the elevator, hoping that it wouldn't brake. the reptile room was dimly lit and it was filthy. I had to feed the lizards insects, like maggots and crickets and stuff which i just cant stand but i decided to do it anyway. I went to get the cickets and found that they were kept just hopping around freely in on section of the room which really grossed me out and didnt want to go in there. my two coworkers talked about the conditions in there as if it were just normal. I went to another section of the room and there were the caterpiller maggot things that were dead and just repulsive. I was scared that if there was an earthquake or something if the room would stay up. Then an earthquake struck and the room was being flipped and turned all over the place so all the bugs were hitting me and i hoped they wouldnt get in my shirt. when the earthquake stopped i was surprised to find the room still standing. By this point i just wanted to leave so i went to the elvator but one of my cowrokers said that it was broken and if i tried to use it it would take years to get down. so i was basicly trapped in this hot humid buggy dirty room. I'm not quite sure what happened next but I think that I found a hole and jumped out and flew away.

curious why he still acts this way?!!? about 10 years ago, I met a guy who turned into a "friends with benefits" kind of situation that lasted about 5 years. when we met, we were both married (he was getting a divorce and I was separating from my husband). things did NOT start between us until after both of our divorces were finalized. at the time, I had a 9 month old daughter. he is 10 years older than me and always told me that if I didn't have my daughter, things would be different (she made him a bit nervous). our relationship continued on for 5 years and we became very close but it was difficult b/c we worked together and even as hard as we tried to keep things under radar-people could tell we cared for each other. he would get teased alot by his coworkers. he eventually remarried and moved but we still kept in touch. I too remarried and went out to visit him once during that marriage. a year later, both of our marriages dissolved but we were living now 1500+ miles apart and I had 2 more little girls. we stopped talking for about 6 months (i felt like we had grown apart and somewhat moved on from each other) but he always would email me once a month to check on me. he again remarried and had a little boy about 8 months ago. we are once again very close although we havent slept together in 4 years. he text messages me everyday and emails me. when we are both working-we'll spend all night emailing and texting each other. he's constantly telling me how much he misses me and has even said that he loves me (tells me this everytime we say goodbye). he's recently joked quite a bit about me moving out where he is so he can adopt my kids and be a happy family. he really wants me to come out and visit him in the next few months-has even offered to pay for my plane ticket. i'm not currently married but have been in a relationship w/my now live in bf for a little over 4 years. my friend has been married for almost a year. I love him dearly and still have very strong feelings for him-10 years is a long time. but I'm curious as to why he's all of a sudden acting like he can't live w/out me. I did meet his entire family over the course of the past 10 years and they all know me quite well. he's always calling me his beautiful, honey, sweetie,etc. why do you think he's doing this-there is nothing bad happening in his marriage-i would know b/c he tells me everything. what's going on with this?!! ok-i didnt say anything about cheating-we haven't been together in 4 years-if I was going to cheat, I would've done it by now-i still care deeply for this man. I just want to know why he's acting the way he is now... i think I need to repost this question w/more details-we NEVER cheated on anyone. whenever one of us was in a relationship-the intimacy stopped but the friendship remained. i'm not buying the being used b/c we live so far apart-if he was just looking for a hook up, i'm sure he could find it where he is.

how do i deal with resturant industry people? I've worked at a couple restuarants and i just dont operate like most of the people ive met. Im really polite to everyone, but its hard to act like 'best friends' so fast.. I usually keep to my self and say hello and goodbye to everyone, and i always help people out if i have time.. But I sort of get made out to be a scapegoat, just because i just dont make allies ('best friends') super fast, because i cant stand the fakeness of it.. I feel like i get backstabbed often, because of the fact that i dont want to join the negativity club. I just try to be nice and keep a distance.. how can i avoid gossip with out becoming one of them? (i notice since they dont have anything to talk about, resturant people tend to bond through complaining and gossip) I want to keep a friendly professional space between me and my coworkers without feeling like.. 'im with them or against them'

Did he ever liked me or was I just his convenience? We use to work together. I never thought much of him more than my coworker. He started flirting one day, u know hand on the shoulder, asking whether I chat online and asked if i could give him a lift...So yeah pretty much me and him just flirting.. One day he pissed me off to the max while we were chatting online..He knew i was pissed off. It was his day off but came to work to drop of something and when he said goodbye i just totally ignored him so he sms me that night to see if i wanted to do anything. I sms sorry hanging out with my girlfriends. The next day he sms if i was just a busy person overall or if i wanted to do anything tonight cuz his group of friends are coming over and wanted to see if i was interested. I asked if i could bring friends along and he said nope only me would be fine then i said fine then no thank you cuz its awkward as i dont know any of his friends. So i said maybe next time i mean i don;t mind if it was just me and him so he sms back saying ok then just me and u since he is not very keen to hang out with his other friends anyway. So yeah i went over to his house and we watched a movie together. He was so so cute..coming with excuses to hold my hand hehhe lol. He first held my wrist and rub my back..I was thinking ok this is weird could you please sit up straight as i have no more room to move so he just rest his head on my lap and i stroke his face softly..There were no kissing what soever i mean its too early and i am still not sure of my feelings to him. Was pretty hesitant to meet up with him outside work hours. I eventually told him i liked him and he said he was interested in getting to know me better. He has a health condition so occasionally if he doesn't eat properly on time he may pass out. One day he passed out at work i stayed next to him til the paramatics came. To my surprise i knew all the critical information about him as i answered the paramatics questions. That night i came to his house to see how he was doing. We stayed outside for three hours was very very cold. Didn't want to come inside as his bro and housemate were inside and yeah so we stood outside in the cold weather watching the stars. He tried to kiss me that night twice but i hid my face against his chest as i wasn't really ready yet. But i did end up giving him a peck on the lips anyway and he was like 'that's all'.. Anyway we had a lot of good moments together.. were seeing each other on and off 4 months. One day he asked me where do i want this to go? i told him straight that u know how much i like u so its ur call now so he said ok i enjoy seeing you and i just want to keep this up for a while before we make the ultimate decision. I said ok if someone was to ask me out what do you think i should do and he said that is ur call to go out with him or not is up to you. I thought for a minute maybe he was keeping something away from me. Keeping his options open. So i said ok then. When i'm with him it feels so right and real. Like he would just kiss me when i'm not looking vice versa and yeah u know felt like he does like me etc. However it was always me who asked if he wanted to do anything later and he would say ok sure. He has never asked me out on a date however we did go out for dinner once but yeah that was it. Twice he has stood me up..we planned to meet up but one occasion he sms saying he has to go to city so cant and the other one two days before my overseas trip he was in the city when i called. He had no intention of calling or smsing me to tell him he was in the city. He was the one who asked if we could meet up before i go overseas and it was him who stood me up. I was so hurt.. Anyways when i was overseas we spoke on the phone. I asked if him he missed me cuz i missed him so so much. Usually he would say yes but that day he said nothing no even i don't know he was all silence. I knew from then that it was it for us. Oh he got sacked so he was undergoing some financial problems. He told me he want to be committed but can't due to no job and his low self esteem and that he may most likely have to leave town and move back with his mum cuz he cant afford the mortage etc. So my question is when he said he liked him did he really meant it or was it just for the sake of saying it? I havn't seen him for 8 months but to be honest i still miss him so so much til now. I last spoke to him 2 weeks ago due to work related stuff. He came back and now he has a job and is really happy. Whereas i am now without a job and still missing him like crazy. Should I tell him i still have strong feelings for him? He left without a goodbye and i just needed a closure eventhough action speaks louder than word but yeah.. P.S: We never slept together..

I am getting blamed for something I didn't do at work.? I work as an information desk clerk in a mall. We have a lost and found there of course. Out policy is that when an item gets turned in, we write in a tag #, a description; where found; found by; date found; and logged in by (in a book at the desk). Then it gets locked up in a separate room at the end of the day. If its money or anything valuable it goes to a safe in the security office. If the owner comes to claim it, we require and ID and paper work to be completed. We keep items for 30 days. Anyway sometimes employees and patrons who turn in the items can put their name down for it if its not claimed. Well a coworker of mine put her name down on a backpack that was turned in. It was not claimed and our manager released it to her (not personally) at the desk. She brought down some other items for other employees, including me. Well this item went missing. No one knows what happened to it. Then 2 weeks or so after this mishap I think I may have mistaken it for mine and took it home. But I can't remember ever putting my name on it and when I took it home. I get confused on occasions. The one I took home with me I thought I put my name on or a coworker thought I would like it and put my name on it. It came in a large brown paper bag and was in a Docker brand backpack. The description of an item in the book was a black/white backpack with the dockers logo on it and it was in a pacsun bag. It was to go to my coworker if not claimed. The backpack I have is black/white with green/yellow/blue with a paint splattered pattern all over the bag. I know I took home a backpack in a large brown bag; maybe Pacsun or Zumiez? I can't recall. I threw away the bag without glancing at the store name on it. Also usually there would be a tag attached to the bag with the claimers name. The tag was torn in half. no name was visible. I thought it was mine. So thinking I made a mistake, I took it in and asked her if this was her bag and I explained everything. She was very angry. And started ranting at me. I told her "I was," 80 % "certain it was hers and that I threw away a big brown paper bag weeks ago". I offered it to her she said, "No, I am not taking it, it might be stolen property." She practically called me a thief, however the word was not mentioned. I got really upset (and you know how hard it is to get words out when your upset). I said that "Your calling me a thief! You are an accuser! Why can't you understand it was a misunderstanding. Why are you so determined to think I am this horrible person!" Well that was my mistake, I was really emotional. I was making myself look guilty. I know this because in my criminology courses we often see criminals express guilt through emotion. When I explained I was only guilty of a mistake she said in a sarcastic tone "Yeah right." She didn't believe me. And I know she is blaming me for other things that have gone missing from the Lost & Found room, she has hinted at it. I couldn't take it. I have always been sensitive, I started getting teary eyed, I barely made it into the break room before I was bawling. I hate this. I know crying makes you look guilty. This is why I hate myself. I don't know why she thinks this. I have never lied or stolen anything since I was a little kid. The bad thing about this is that I am a Lead and apparently I am a "supervisor" according to my part-time coworkers, but not to my boss. Just someone who keeps track of new things and reports them. I just became one because I was the only one that could work full time. What should I do? I have called my boss and left her a message. But how am I going to get through this? I am such a wreck right now. I am an inch from just saying "goodbye world, hi g-d, sorry this had to happen." Any help, please? There are practically no jobs right now, I can't afford to quit or get fired. I don't want to get let go for something that just inconveniently happened. I am emotional, I can't control it, I have tried. Thanks

Was he ever truly in love with me? I met this wonderful guy at my place of work (sigh, it's never a good combo). We started dating last year and were together 11 months. But let me back up and get all the details. There was an instant spark (at least on my end) from the moment we had our first conversation. When we actually started dating, it was a match made in heaven. We had and continue to have so much in common, throughout our relationship we never stopped laughing, never stopped talking and were nearly attached at the hip. I started staying over his house two months into the relationship, and at the end of the relationship I was there 6 nights a week out of 7. We grew so close...or did we? His best friend is a girl, and she's married (well, common wealth - there hasn't been an actual ceremony yet), has a child (a son, who is five, the father is the man she's with), and her mother works with me at my job as well. From day one, I would hear her mother on the phone talking about them (my now ex and her daughter) as a unit (even before we started dating). "Charlie" and "Annie" this, Charlie and Annie that. It caused a lot of heartache for me, as a person, because he kept us seperated (Annie and I) saying it would be too difficult for him because he could tell neither one of us liked each other and he didn't want to have to choose (I know this shows no backbone). I became very distraught over this and the only arguments (I think there were 2 in our entire relationship?) we ever had were over Annie. Annie sent me a very long email about how I was worthless and how Charlie deserved so much better than me. Charlie defended her, saying I provoked it (the day before I was pretty fed up of never being included and finally said something) and that's just how Annie is. At one point we nearly broke up because he told me Annie and her mother were like family to him and I was to never disrespect them. We decided to keep our relationship going because what we had we both enjoyed and their could be something more (I think this was 5 months in?). He said he was going to try to include me in on their friendship and I said I'd try to keep an open mind. I tried talking to her, I added her on a social networking site. I started talking to her mother more at work, he started opening up a little bit about their friendship. Charlie and I were nearly inseperable. We started talking about moving in together. He took me to meet his extended family 9 states away, for my birthday he took me to a ritzy hotel and we spent the entire romantic weekend together alone. Then this is where I get confused. Suddenly, the communication between Annie, her mother and I break down (over unfriending them on a network site by accident!) - and he becomes a little withdrawn. A week after this romantic vacation, three days after the snafu with Annie and her mother - he was telling me it was over. He said he was never in love with me and took me places and did things with me because he was trying to see if he could "fall in love" with me. No one (family, friends, coworkers) saw it coming, no one could believe it because the holiday had just come and gone and nothing was different in the way we were behaving. During the breakup he was crying, hard. He was hugging me and telling me I was beautiful and he was going to have a hard time looking at me because I was so sexy and he was still attracted to me, he kept kissing my forehead, my cheeks, wiping away my tears. When we said goodbye, he had my face in his hands, looked me in the eyes (still crying) and said he loved me. The next few days were a roller coaster, going downhill without brakes. Annie's mother told me the next day that she was sorry, but he was never in love (because she asked him) and the only reason he was with me was because he didn't want to hurt me and he had a hard time with the breakup because the worst part of our relationship was that he really did hurt me. He and I texted that day about it and he told me I never was, never would be his soulmate and said nothing he did should have indicated that - he said he walked on eggshells to not make me think we were a forever thing. These are not his words, I've never heard him say anything so harsh. He is nice to everyone and never speaks ill of anyone. We had agreed to be friends when we broke up, said it would be hard at first, but we'd at least give it our best effort. I had something of his, so one morning (the same week of the breakup), I asked him to come and get it, I had it at my desk. I heard Annie's mother on the phone with Annie stating "She did what? This is going to stop. She's going to stop. This is going to end one of two ways..." She got up and walked to his department and was gone for half an hour. He waited until Annie's mother went on her lunch break, came over to grab what I had and rubbed my shoulders and told me I looked beautiful. Then, later on in the night he told me I needed to get it that we'd only She got up and walked to his department and was gone for half an hour. He waited until Annie's mother went on her lunch break, came over to grab what I had and rubbed my shoulders and told me I looked beautiful. Then, later on in the night he told me I needed to get it that we'd only be friends and he was doing his best not to lead me on (again), but he didn't regret any part of our relationship we had. Annie's mother continues to talk of Charlie and Annie, and how she would have John (Annie's son) so that Charlie and Annie could go out and have a good time (Annie's husband was at home working on their house and could not have John underfoot). Any time he and I try to communicate, she's off in his department forever. I don't understand what happened and I still have a hard time sleeping over this (it's been almost a month). How can you go from discussing moving in with each other, telling me he was planning on taking me back up to see his extended family on vacation in the spring, telling me that for my next birthday he was taking me to California (this is about two, maybe three weeks prior to the breakup). How can you go from that to never being in love? I really can't understand this and it's tearing me up inside. My photos are still up on both networking sites, never removed the captions. Does a person cry that hard breaking up with someone? Do they look them in the eyes and say that you love them? Would you still feel attracted to that person? Would you not take down any of your photos on the networking site, and on the other not change your status to single? Did I get played or is there more to this? I really thought he was the one I was going to be with for the rest of my life. I met his entire family (immediate and extended), we shared holiday's with both families, I met all of his friends - we hung out together with all of his friends....except for Annie (only real time, was a double date). How do I move past this hurt he left me with? His eyes said he was in love, his actions told me he was in love, in words he was in love - until the day we broke up. Help?

This may be a controversal question but do gay femine males want to be woman? I am wondering because I don't want offend. I have a gay male coworker who talks in a softer voice then I do and walks more feminen also.. when someone said goodbye ladies and he's in the room he says bye . Both him and his partner are feminen so should I avoid saying bye guys to them even though I say that to guys and girls. And should I watch how I use my words avoiding gender specific words like sr. When a guy client is clearly feminen . Or when a clear woman is a " dike" and proud of it. I have seen some ghetto gay people who get mad for things like that but haven't changed their sex completly. Can any one answer me as to why they get so mad. I don't get mad when I am called mamm clearly I am a girl. also why do gay guys want to fight woman when they are biologicaly males with male strength . Not all but a lot of gay males I've seen. Mabe that only in Ny. Again not all gay individuals are like this . So don't take offense .

How should I go about this situation? I took a foreign girl on 2 dates, and we smooched at the end of the second date. She is also my coworker. She is leaving on Monday to her mother country, and her last day of work was yesterday. We've been involved on similar projects for about three months and I got the vibe she liked me, so I asked her out which she immediately agreed to. We had two great nights and clicked really well. On our second date (Thursday) she was on her way out, so I basically told her I like her and she reciprocated - though, I was kind of drunk (as was she). She said I can email her. Though, on her last day of work, I was not at my desk when she left early. She had to run an errand. She sent me a text said "i didn't know where you were and i had to go pick this up. I said "have a good weekend. I'll give you a call on Sunday, cool?" but she has not responded to that text message! Should I still call her just to tell her I had enjoyed her company, maybe get her email address, and say good luck, or do you think I successfully creeped her out. And, is sending a text message to me indicative of the fact she likes me and doesn't want to think she just left work without saying bye, or is it more just an obligatory, as it didn't really say "goodbye" or anything, or am I just overanalyzing this?

Girls - Are girls just like this in general? I did a year long internship at an office. 2 weeks after I started a girl just out of college started working there. Since then she always flirted with me all the time. At the time I was in a relationship so I didn't take notice of her too much. Soon she wanted to facebook friend me. When she did she saw my profile picture which was a picture of me and my ex girlfriend at the time. She saw it and she sounded "disappointed" or something. But she kept leaving me little post it notes, with <3's on it. She called my phone at work every other day with the stupidest thing (I was an IT guy) like "hey my email wouldn't send" or "my internet doesn't work"( it turned out the LAN cable was unplugged for some odd reason) etc etc. She wanted me to go get coffee with her downstairs often. When my ex dumped me, i was really down and she cheered me up. And since then we texted often. She started calling me "hon" "sweetie" etc. One night younger people from the office went out for happy hour. After, she got hungry and i did, too. I thought other people were coming to McDonalds with us but it ended up being just us. It was pretty late and the McDonalds we went to was closed. So while standing outside deciding what to do, she randomly hugged me really tight. She did all that standard "i'm flirting with you" signals like touching my arms all the time, playing with her hair, saying she likes my jacket/sweater etc, getting me hot chocolate. She even sometimes literally bent over right in front of me wearing skirts... There are many more little things... My last day at work was a few days ago. About the time the day was over, people wanted to go out as a farewell thing for me. She couldn't go because her family was going to go visit her sister in another city right after she was done with work. Another guy and I were walking around seeing if people were ready to go, and she really seemed to say goodbye to me, but people kinda got in the way. So she asked "when are you gonna be leaving back to school?" I said in a few days. She asked if i would hang out with her next week(which would be this week now). She texted me this morning "I miss you" I was kinda excited. But apparently, a girl coworker/friend told me that she was just telling my coworker/friend about her new "guy" that she met or something. So i figured she's just messing with me or trying to see my response just saying "i miss you". What do you guys think? Should i respond to the text? if yes, then how should i respond? and second question. You know how there's that stereotype whatnot that all guys are jerks or something they can never keep their eyes on just one girl or something like that. I feel like girls are like that too... Even if they are with someone, they always keep their eyes open for someone else. or am I just running into and falling for the wrong girls?

Should I email her one more time? I used to be close to a female coworker of mines when she was single. We will have lunch, have great conversation and even flirt a little. In fact I thought we had a great connection. I admit that I had a crush on her, and felt a little crushed when she eventually had a boyfriend. I had to suck it up and distance myself to her to get over the crush. It was during this time that I also decided that I will be leaving the company and on my last day I was not able to say goodbye to her. I emailed her to say I am sorry, and I will miss her and asked for her contact. She gave me her email and said we should continue to have lunch. I replied and said I agree. I am still getting over her at this time and I was very busy at work so I didn't have any contact with her, except for a few encounters on the streets (our buildings are only a few blocks away). I never said hi to her during those encounters as I don't think she saw me anyways and most of the time she was with a guy so I didn't want to interrupt. About a month 1/2 later I emailed her to see how she is doing and if she wants to have lunch. No reply so a week later I followed up to her work email to check to see if her personal email is still working. No reply. By this time I get the feeling that she will most likely not reply to my emails and stopped emailing her. 2 weeks later I did contract work for my previous employer and had to sit in a meeting with her in there. We said Hi and thats pretty much it. I still want to be friends with her -if she is still open to it- but I am not sure how to get the conversation going again. I also want to know what exactly I have done to make her suddenly stop talking to me. What should I do? Should I email her one last time? I know she does not like me the same way so I will never ask her out. I just want to be friends, like when we used to eat and chat and have a laugh. I never thought of her ignoring me as "rejection". I think she is mad at me about something. I guess the easiest way to find out is if I see her again on the street, just ask her why she is ignoring me. I will not, and can't, go in her work place unless I am asked to go in.

Should I give her a second chance? i have already established that she is lying and most likely cheating or planing to cheat. My question is how do you feel about second chances. It's hard to imagine this relationship after what is happening. While it is equally hard to image leaving Here is the original post from this morning... I suspect my gf of cheating with a particular guy. last night she went to a bar with friends and i stayed home. After a few hours had passed (about the time she would normally come home on a weeknight) I decided to drive the the apartments where the other guy lived at. (When i met this other guy last week we discussed how he lived in the same complex as we had before.) I had a general idea of where his building was. I circled the complex once and felt like an idiot...she was not there. As i pulled out of the gate I saw her car pull in and she was alone and on the phone. I pulled over in a secluded spot and called her...three times no answer. My phone rang it was her... through the conversation this is the end product..."She is still at the bar and is going to hang with her friends until they are ready to leave but she doesn't know what time that would be" I tell her i love her and then say goodbye. As I turn the corner her car is headed towards my direction and as I pass she pulls into a spot (this is two seconds after she lied on the phone to me about being at the bar). I park the car and approach her in the parking lot Q: I say what are you doing A:"going home" Q:Why are you at this apartment A: "I was visiting a friend" Q: When you calledme were you at the bar? A: "yes (this is a lie obviously she was already through the gate into the property) I never let her know of who i suspect and she finally admits later that night at the house that it was the coworker she was visiting. What is killing me inside is how she won't admit she was cheating. That night she says "that she was only going to hang out with him", "she had never been there before", "she was not on the phone when she pulled into the complex" (I saw her on the phone), & "he had no idea she was stopping by". This morning she admitted that she did text him to ask if she could stop by. However she had said he didn't know she was coming and her phone history was conveniently deleted. I understand if i sound controlling but i never accused her of these things i just followed my gut feelings and God did I want to be wrong. I just want her to admit she is cheating. she denies it and says that she is afraid to tell me that she was going to hang out with a guy without me around. This relationship is going on 5+ years and we have talked kids marriage and buying a home.

Is she cheating on me? I suspect my gf of cheating with a particular guy. last night she went to a bar with friends and i stayed home. After a few hours had passed (about the time she would normally come home on a weeknight) I decided to drive the the apartments where the other guy lived at. (When i met this other guy last week we discussed how he lived in the same complex as we had before.) I had a general idea of where his building was. I circled the complex once and felt like an idiot...she was not there. As i pulled out of the gate I saw her car pull in and she was alone and on the phone. I pulled over in a secluded spot and called her...three times no answer. My phone rang it was her... through the conversation this is the end product..."She is still at the bar and is going to hang with her friends until they are ready to leave but she doesn't know what time that would be" I tell her i love her and then say goodbye. As I turn the corner her car is headed towards my direction and as I pass she pulls into a spot (this is two seconds after she lied on the phone to me about being at the bar). I park the car and approach her in the parking lot Q: I say what are you doing A:"going home" Q:Why are you at this apartment A: "I was visiting a friend" Q: When you calledme were you at the bar? A: "yes (this is a lie obviously she was already through the gate into the property) I never let her know of who i suspect and she finally admits later that night at the house that it was the coworker she was visiting. What is killing me inside is how she won't admit she was cheating. That night she says "that she was only going to hang out with him", "she had never been there before", "she was not on the phone when she pulled into the complex" (I saw her on the phone), & "he had no idea she was stopping by". This morning she admitted that she did text him to ask if she could stop by. However she had said he didn't know she was coming and her phone history was conveniently deleted. I understand if i sound controlling but i never accused her of these things i just followed my gut feelings and God did I want to be wrong. I just want her to admit she is cheating. she denies it and says that she is afraid to tell me that she was going to hang out with a guy without me around. This relationship is going on 5+ years and we have talked kids marriage and buying a home. Please any advice i am broken

Would she like to be more then friends? So I'm in a part time job and there's this girl that I work with sometimes. Shes 17 and I'm 16, and we became friends straight away. We went out today to a coastal town where we had a look in some shops and had a walk along the beach etc. She took quite a few photos of me and her together (although she generally takes quite a few pictures of things). She also said she might have one of the photos framed as she already had ones of numerous family members and her best friend. The other day she invited me to a barbeque which mainly consisted if her family and neighbours and so today she asked me what I thought of her family. We had ice cream today and I got some of it on my face, she tried wiping it off with her finger. When she said goodbye she hugged me and said she'd had a great day. Lately we do seem to be getting closer with her starting to share her problems with me etc. I don't know if she is interested because usually whenever we go on msn it's me who starts the conversations and sometimes she doesn't reply, but when she doesn't she always tells me she wasn't ignoring me. She has said in the past that shes not looking for a relationship with anyone, but that was quite a few months ago when we were still little more then coworkers. Does she want to be more then friends? And should I let her know about how I feel? I know it's a long question but please help!

I went on a date while my bf was at work? I have been with my bf for four years and last month he moved out after i found out he went on a few dates with his coworker they made out, i found out after reading a text that he sent to her saying what they did was dumb and how they need to remain coworkers and cant hang out anymore. of course i was pissed i told him to move out, we decided to stay together and work it out slowly but..........i went out on a date with a guy i met at a bar and we talked and had a drink he tried to kiss me goodbye and i left and text him i gotta figure some things out and will get back to him about it later, I am so confused My boyfriend asked why i had been acting weird I dont know what to do... because i went on the date do you think im over it?? or trying to get even? sounds dumb but i dont know what to do

Should I be worried that my 57 year old husband was out last night with 2 women & a man in their 20's? Last night my husband of 30 years went out for dinner with 3 younger coworkers(2 women,1man all in their 20's). They work for him at a college & were celebrating the end of the year. He came in before 11pm but had obviously been drinking a lot. He reeked of alcohol, tossed & turned, snored a little, slept some but seemed very restless &,what bothered me most, was he never tried to cuddle with me - and we always do that no matter how late he comes in. He's been out with these people during the year too & they all work together 10-12 hours a day at least 6 days a week. When I got up repeatedly during the night because his restlesness was waking me, he woke up but never said a word. He left for work an hour ago (now 5:30am) & barely kissed me goodbye, hardly said a word. Why am I so upset? Why was I crying whenever I got up? What am I missing here? Am I just being paranoid?

what does the the author want the reader to know/feel/understand, and how does she go about achiveing this? Ehrenreich begins her experiment in Key West, Florida, where she finds an efficiency apartment for $500 a month. As Ehrenreich applies for numerous jobs, she learns about the low-wage-job application process. These applications involve many multiple-choice questions and a urine test. When she does not hear back from any of the jobs after three days, she begrudgingly applies for a waitressing position. Ehrenreich is hired by the “Hearthside,” which, like the names of those she meets along the way, has been changed. Ehrenreich will work at the Hearthside for two weeks from 2:00 in the evening until 10:00 at night for $2.43 an hour, plus tips. Gail trains Ehrenreich on the ins and outs of waitressing; Ehrenreich feels supremely incapable and incompetent. Ehrenreich gets to know some of the regular customers and feels compelled to do the best job possible. Ehrenreich bonds with her coworkers and comes to like many of them. During her time in the restaurant business, Ehrenreich comes to despise management. She finds that while she must constantly be working, doing anything at all but sitting still, her supervisors are able to sit for hours on end. Managers and assistant managers are to make sure the restaurant makes money; they frequently lack compassion for their employees and for customers. Ehrenreich’s other complaint about the restaurant business is that the pay is not financially viable. She offers a survey of each of the non-management employees and shows how they are barely able to survive on their incomes and how most of them will not be able to continue financially for very long. Ehrenreich uncovers the special costs that the poor encounter. She notes that if you cannot afford the security deposit for an apartment, you are forced to live in a hotel--which is ultimately more costly. If you have only a room, you cannot save money by cooking nutritious, cheap food. If you have no health insurance, you end up with significant and costly health problems. After two weeks, Ehrenreich realizes she will have to get a second job. Ehrenreich picks up a second waitressing job at Jerry’s. Jerry’s is a disaster: the kitchen is a mess, the bathroom in inadequately equipped, and there is no break room because there are no breaks. Ehrenreich is unable to work at both the Hearthside and Jerry’s, so she quits the Hearthside because she will be able to make more money at Jerry’s. Ehrenreich decides to move closer to Key West to save gas money. She moves into a small and uncomfortable trailer in a trailer park. At Jerry’s, Ehrenreich experiences the numerous problems that arise between employees and the workplace. The bar becomes off-limits because a waitress becomes impaired. Another time, a Dishwasher is accused of stealing. After a month of waitressing, Ehrenreich gets a housekeeping job in a hotel. At the job she makes $6.10 an hour, but only lasts for one day. Ehrenreich spends her day with Carlie, who is responsible for training her. As they move from room to room, they watch soap operas on television. That afternoon at Jerry’s, Ehrenreich has a particularly awful day. She has four tables with some demanding customers; she is tired and sleep deprived. When Joy yells at her, Ehrenreich decides to leave. She does not quit or ask permission; she just leaves. Ehrenreich turns her trailer over to Gail and says goodbye to Key West.

You’re catching up with your best friend over a glass of wine when she notices her ? tall, dark and handsome!) coworker across the bar. She introduces you and you engage in a brief but flirtatious conversation. You’re sure he’s going to ask for your number, but then he tells you to “take it easy” and starts to head back to his group of friends. YOU: A.drop him before he gets away and ask if he wants to grab dinner sometime. B.Drop by his group of friends on the way out to say “goodbye” and slip him your number. C Jump back into conversation with your girlfriend. Hey, if he wants your number, he knows how to get it.

Jealousy problems? Is it just me or do you have them too? And how do you deal with them? I don't know what to do about my jealousy problem... I get all hurt when my guy talks to other girls, (we work together) and when he talks to other coworkers i get jealous. Or when I see him talking on the phone, I worry about who he's talking too. When he doesn't call me I wonder where he is and what he's too busy doing that he can't call. I get jealous when he gives other girls hugs when he says hello or goodbye. In other words, I guess I'm very insecure but these things do make me really jealous. Any other girls out there have this same problem? How do you deal with it? Should I let him know that I get jealous really easy? Please help!!!

Oh my God. A Serious Crush on a friend and coworker (The One).? I have this huge crush on a friend co-worker. I met her at work when she first started about 14 months ago. She is 32 and Im 24. But she is so beutiful. She has done everything. Traveled around the world, Playboy mansion guest, Set designer and so beutiful. Her personality is awesome. We hang out, go to movies,dinner, and many other things. We agree with everything, As if we think alike. She talks about me with her family but never met them personaly. She buys me things as do I. My situation is exactly like Joeys and Rachel on Friends. He loves her but cant do anything about it. I have dreams of being together and its so wonderful. Just being around her make my heart pound. I cant go to work and not think about her. Shes here on a temporary assignment and will be moving back to LA. I know we will still talk. I think I should tell her how I feel when we say our goodbyes. I would rather have her as a friend, than not have her at all. But a girlfriend would be so complete. What to do?

Is he interested in me? I need help? This is my story about the guy I have been in love with for almost three years its long and confusing but Im searching for answers and hope you all can help me. So it starts of in November 2007 we meet through work he was our courier for the company I worked at. Anyway one day my friend mentioned to me that our stock girl thought he was attractive and i had also thought this. A week or so goes bye and at this point I was excited to even see him let alone when he came to deliver our stock and actually spoke to me. I had told my visual coordinator that I really liked him and waned to ask him out but had clue how to do it she told me to maybe get him a christmas present and see what happened so I did the day i was going to give him the gift i was very nervous so my friend did it for me and told him that i really liked him and wanted to maybe go out someday soon.. I found out that he liked hockey so we ended up going to a hockey game a week or so later this was my first ever date with a guy we had a lot of fun and things seemed to be going somewhere. The next day at work when he saw me he told me he had a great night and he asked me out for lunch that upcoming weekend I of course accepted this and we went out.. While we were waiting for our table to be ready he had to go get a Christmas present for someone so we were walking through the mall and then he told me that he had a GIRLFRIEND of almost two years , i was absolutely crushed. So after Christmas holidays were over and we saw each other again he mentioned to me that he got a new job a was going to be leaving the city. So January 4th comes and this was supposed to be his last day of work but he never showed up for work. I was in the back that afternoon when a coworker came to the back and said someone was here for me I go out and it was him and he said he didn't want to leave without saying goodbye and he wanted to go for lunch again so we went out and then he walked me back to my store and we said our goodbyes and that was that. We both exchanged phone numbers to keep in contact with each other as friends. So a week or so goes bye and i hear nothing from him and the only reason i expected to was because he said he was going to call me when he arrived at his new place about five hours away or so. I think it was 10 days until i heard something from him and i asked him how his job was going and he said well my job feel through so i decided to stay here for awhile and clear my head. I think it was maybe three weeks until i heard from him again but this time he said he was back in the city but was extremely sick and we would meet up when he was better for the next 7 days he text me every day and called me three times and we talked for like 2 hours every time. Then it came finally to the day we were going to meet up and i worked that morning and he was going to pick me up at work so he comes into my store and comes up behind me and hands me a red rose and said i missed you and you look great. This is when things start going down hill he constantly made little promises like ill cal you tomorrow but didn't or will meet up next week but never did.. I went on trip with my friend at the beginning of March and finally heard something from him again and we talked for like 3 hours after that day i didn't hear a word from him in like 4 months and one day he just called me. Then it was another 3 months and then he text me right around when hockey season was starting and he asked if i wanted to meet up with him and keep in mind i had not seen him in like 7 months and really barely spoke to him at all so we meet up had dinner played some pool and generally had a great night and then he brought up that it was coming up on his 3 year anniversary with his girlfriend and that being just friends with me was extremely difficult because the temptations are so big. So for the next month or so we talk on and off about work and stuff and his vacation coming up. It was the end of November and something upset him because i didnt hear from him ever again. Until one day i was at a 7 eleven getting something and i walked out got in my car and he walked in. The weird thing about this being he had lived on the complete opposite side of the city last time i heard and i never expected to see him. So i text him and said " wow i cant believe i just saw you" and he replies " what have you been up to how are you type thing. and asks me out for the following night. That evening was a little different because i didn't feel like i was as attracted to him anymore but still felt feelings for him and he was always so nice and completing me and opening doors for me and paying for stuff but still had a girlfriend. ( This was like 5 months ago. ) i saw him another two times at the convenience store and we talked a lot more then we ever had about hockey and it felt like we were friends more then anything but i knew ever since the day i meet him I was in love with him but buried my feelings becau

How do I fall out of love with a man I have to see daily? I am desperately in love with a male coworker--it is "platonic" in the sense it is not a physical relationship, but it is more than a friendship. At any rate, for various reasons he won't date with me -- in my opinion it's mainly because he wants freedom to... do... other things. Fine. Let's assume he's bad for me. However, (1) he is my best friend, and (2) he is my coworker, and sits 3 feet from my desk. I can't ask for a transfer of any kind without drawing a lot of attention to the matter -- people already gossip that we are sleeping together; a request like that would simply confirm it in their own minds. Is it even possible to fall out of love with your best friend without saying goodbye to him forever?

How is this piece of writing? It's pretty long so I'll just put the first couple of paragraphs. If you want more tell me :) Harvey Edelman, age thirty-four and counting, his once-attractive face now adorned with a hobo-signature salt-and-pepper beard and weather beaten ruddy skin, sat against the wall of Café Figaro smoking a cigarette. It wasn’t a very good cigarette, Harvey thought absently. The smoke in it was weak and ashes were getting all over the ground. He briefly dreamed up a wildly imaginative story in which New York burned to the ground from his cigarette spark and started to chuckle, but he choked on a puff of smoke and his fantasy quickly ended. He always did have a good imagination. He remembered sitting in high school Freshman English, writing mildly decent love poetry while he stared wistfully at Meredith Greene. He had known her for so long, been in love with her for so long. Borrowed notebook paper from her at Omaha Middle, scribbled Meredith Edelman on his notebooks at Omaha High, stalked her from the minute her family moved in across from his, the summer of 8th grade. Gazed at her as she danced with William Newport at the Senior Prom while he lamely ladled spiked punch into happy couple’s plastic cups. Thought that maybe on the last day of school, he would tell her, and they would kiss and date and get married and live happily ever after. But he never told her. He had never even said goodbye to her. He had lost his nerve, had chickened out, and had watched her BMW squeal a sick kind of goodbye as it pulled out of her garage for that last time. And that was it. By this time, she had graduated from Columbia and probably married that pretentious shit Benedict. And he had still come. At first, it had seemed like a dream. He felt as if he was watching someone else put the Stanford acceptance letter through the paper shredder, pack a duffle, take a credit card out of his father’s wallet, fly to New York, and wander around the Columbia campus every day looking for Meredith while he stayed in a shitty hotel in Harlem. After the credit card had reached its limit, he got a job at a used bookstore. He held that for a while and gave up on her, but four months after he had started he heard from a coworker that a semi-famous model named Meredith went to get coffee every day at a place called Café Figaro in Greenwich Village and he had quit right then and there. Harvey had been sitting outside of the Café all day and all night waiting for her. He never saw her. Once, he thought he had and almost had a heart attack, but he had hadn’t seen her dimpled grin, heard her pitchy voice, or smelled her sandalwood perfume since the last day of school. He realized her appearance could have changed considerably (after all, she was a model now), but he was confident he could spot her a mile away. Nobody else had that shade of hair, so blonde it was almost white. Natural, too. So he had been sitting against this wall, waiting for her, for more than thirteen years with no reward. So what? He hadn’t gotten close, but he had gotten his cigar. Cigarette, actually. He knew it was a filthy habit, but most models smoked, so wouldn’t Meredith like the fact he smoked? Besides, the wall was a great place for creative inspiration. He had painted his first sign after instead of change, a passing art major from NYU had tossed him leftover supplies from his backpack: black paint and some manila paper. A lot of times he didn’t have paper. That was fine. When that happened, he used cardboard from the trash can. But he always had paint. People gave him paint, and not the kiddie kind you buy at Hobby Lobby for a dollar. The real deal, the stuff that came from ostentatious stationary shops near Central Park. Because he was Harvey the Hobo, Harvey the Hobo Poet. He knew his nicknames, knew he had a Wikipedia entry somewhere on the web, knew he had become a symbol of “Oh those crazy New Yorkers” just like the Naked Cowboy. But he willingly posed for pictures with tourists, willingly chatted with the college students, willingly painted sign after sign. He liked to think of the signs as his therapy, as his way of getting out his frustration with the world. He had realized a long time ago the world was just plain shit. He liked to think of himself as enlightened. It made him feel accomplished, like he had joined the ranks of Da Vinci and Socrates. Maybe he had, in his way. Wouldn’t that be something. To Bella- Glad you liked it! Yes, it's part of a bigger story. Much bigger. That part was just a paragraph of a chapter of a novel! Yeah...he is a very lonely dude. But he's a cool character. I'm having fun with him haha. Constructive criticism, please. That last comment was SO uncalled for. I'm a young author. Sorry if you didn't like it, but keep comments about subjects you don't know a thing about to yourself. Jesus Christ that was rude. asshole.

Would you say goodbye to coworkers if youre fired? Got fired 3 weeks ago. Everyone pretty much knows, they just don't want to tell me that they know........should I say goodbye to everyone tomorrow or should I just leave? Yes, My boss fired me 3 weeks ago. She told me so that I can have until the end of the month to look for another job.

Goodbye letter to coworkers? My last day of work is nearing and I would like to send a nice goodbye email to my coworkers. Any idea what the email should entail. If you were in my situation, what would you write?

My last day of work is nearing and I would like to send a nice goodbye email to my coworkers.?

Is it better to not kiss your significant other goodbye on the lips in front your job with coworkers watching? While being dropped off at work, how unprofessional is it to kiss your significant other in front of the door to your job while coworkers are around. Keep in mind that this is a corporate job, not Mcdonald...not that it matters.....

How would you write a text for a goodbye card for a cute coworker? ???i got a cute card but need to write a text.

How do you word a Goodbye Party flyer for a coworker? The person the party is for is an intern that was very helpful and we will miss him. He is still in school He is young we are a mental health facility

What to give my boss for goodbye? My boss leaving the company and we have a month to come up with a goodbye gift. Me and my coworkers are out of ideas. I don't know him that well, and he's a pretty senior person at my company. I know he likes baseball and vacationing, if this helps. Suggestions?

Should I buy my coworkers a Christmas, goodbye gift? I work with two older women, who have not always been a joy to work with. My last day is December 14 and I'm wondering if I should bring them candy or some little something for Christmas and also as a I'm leaving gift. I bought them both small gifts last year, but gave them gifts right at Christmas. I don't want to spend a lot of money on them because they aren't my favorite people, but maybe I should just to a small something since I am leaving them at the holidays and it's Christmas. What do you think? I am choosing to leave my job because I want to travel during the holidays and I because of my school schedule next semester. I think my boss is a little bitter about the fact that I can leave.

Should i say goodbye to my students? I was a preschool teacher. I had a great rapport with most of my 16 students, but was fired today for an error I partially made that left one student unattended. I didn't see the class or any coworkers since the incident and haven't had a chance to say goodbye. I think they are so young that they may not remember me (3 to 5), so I wonder what I should do? My ex-supervisor says it is up to me. I feel a little embarassed at the sudden extreme situation, but wonder if the kids will be upset that I never said goodbye.

Can you draft for me a Thank you and Good bye Speech for my beloved coworkers? I am finishing one of my consulting contract job in another state. I am moving back to my original state. My coworkers prepares a farewel party (dinner) for me. I am expected to give a speech. can anyone give me some draft (good lines) to thank my coworkers for loving me for 2 years and a good line of wish and goodbye? Thank you

Should I say goodbye to this friend? I will try to make this brief. I am 37-year-old female who has a 46-year-old male friend who is an ex-coworker. Ever since he joined this church that preaches the "prosperity gospel", he has been nothing but rude and preachy. This is since November of 2008. This is not like him. He also rejected a Christmas gift from me and my husband ... accused me of being a Pitty Patty and letting the Devil get into my mind ... and also accused me of sending him a video that had animal abuse (he should know me better than that). He used to be so nice from 1998 to October 2008, then as of November 2008, he changed and not for the better.Should I just let him go permanently or just for a long period of time and hopes he gets back to his sweet self that he used to be? Have tried to talk with him about his rude behavior, but to no avail. Is this his way of saying, "I no longer want to be friends" or is he just so involved in his holy roller church now that he doesn't care about nobody but himself?

Goodbye party? I am planning on a goodbye party for 2 of my coworkers who are leaving (they have already left), at a mexican resturant, I already know, most of us have decided to go, but there may be 2 or 3 who don't want to go, I want to have this party at 8pm, drinks and dinner, and dancing. I would like everyone to attend, but one already is saying that she is not planning to come because it is to late and she has to be up at 6 am to be at work at 7:30, I think she is being anti-social, I think everyone should come, just to be social and friendly. what do you guys think

What Do You Say To A Dying Coworker ? A coworker of mine who is not well liked and who was recently demoted, just found out he has 2-4 weeks to live. His wife is throwing him a "lifes" end party next week for all to say goodbye one last time. I am the only one attending from my work area, as I think it's the right thing to do. However, I am at a loss as to what to talk about. I can't talk with him of the future as he has none. I really don't want to discuss work due to his recent demotion and the fact that no one else from here is attending the party. I also feel that talking about his upcoming demise is too much of a sore subject to touch upon. Perhaps I can just listen and take cues from him and his wife and go from there. Any suggestions ? Grandma 2-6 - actually there's nothing fishy. He was misdiagnosed as being depressed after being demoted. He was rapidly losing weight, couldn't eat, etc. Turned out he has cancer almost everywhere in his body.

Did I leave a bad impression because I cried at work? I ended an internship and as I was saying goodbye to coworkers I started crying. Did I leave a bad impression because of this? Am i going to be remembered as a joke "the girl who started crying?" I feel very embarrassed and not sure if it's no big deal or something I should worry about. Will people feel I'm immature? I wasn't planning on it, it just happend. I got emotional saying goodbye.

Goodbye, in Russian? One of my coworkers speaks Russian as his native language, and he is leaving next week. Would it be appropriate to say "Do svidanya" (written in cyrillic) in the farewell card for him, when I am probably never going to see him again? I would like to write a little something in Russian, but I don't remember much from when I took it in college. 1. It's до свидания 2. It's ma'am, not sir

i have been seeing this girl for three months and we are coworkers she asked me to stay over tonight? and i said i didnt want to tonight because i have to be at work early tomorrow. she got upset which in turn made me upset. then she said she would never invite me over anymore which made me even more upset. we left work without saying goodbye. she called me on my cell and wanted to know what was wrong. i told her i was just frustrated and didnt want to get into it over the phone knowing it could escalade into an argument. i called her back and offered to go over and make dinner and to talk but she said no....what should i do?....what should i think? i told her i felt like a disappointment to her and she said to me i was for reference i am 37 and not a virgin.....my girlfriend and i have been intimate already. in addition everyday at work i either by her lunch or cook lunch for her by her juicy fruit gum wihich is her favorite or arizona green tea....so its not like i never think about her or do anything nice for her

Need a hilarious prank to play on Coworker!? My coworker's last day is tomorrow and we're trying to go all out with a "goodbye and good luck" prank. We've always pulled little tricks on each other, so it's kinda been our thing. Something funny, witty, and not too dangerous. We're special education teachers and work at a private school, but the prank can be pulled after the kids go home and we do our paperwork. Any help is appreciated! We want her to go out with a bang. Thanks!

what does it mean when you tell a girl you like her and? well i know a girl, she was a coworker and we were pretty cool . Now something always told me that she liked me...i always liked her but i'll be 21 on the 25th of march and i think she's 25 economy was bad so i got laid off i needed up saying goodbye to my coworkers . and when i saw her i got her number. now i wanted to talk to her face to face and for some reason i was nervous and i text messaged her (i know big mistake) that i liked her alot and i needed to get it off my chest i hope it don't change anything . and shes answers back "no it doesn't change anything, we are good" . lol yeah i know bad but recently i went back to work to say hi , now she works in the back room and she stays therelike 90 percent of the day , but when she heard i was there she came out we went for a kiss on the cheek but she ended up getting like the whole left side of my lips and a hug and we spoke for a little bit so .... i am confused . most likely it doesn't mean anything and i am just over thinking the situation but should I Leave It Alone? or what should i do? i really like this girl

i think i was sexually harrassed? so i was at work and i was leaving work and well i was saying goodbye to my coworkers. so i gave some people a hug and well one of my coworkers gave me a hug that was not a hug that was very mellow she wrapped her arms completely around me and i did not like, it what should i do? I'm also a guy

what did i do wrong? i was saying goodbye to a coworker and said something that made him upset. he to me "you dont have to jump my ass in front of everybody

Letter or Poem Idea for Leaving a Job? I am transfering at work to another center and would like to thank my coworkers with a letter or poem. I am also doing those little survival kits for everone but need help with a letter or poem thanking everyone and saying goodbye to post in the office. Please Help

Smile but sporadic eye contact? I'm pretty soft-spoken and quiet, but I do talk a little bit if someone initiates a conversation. Was leaving work for the holiday break and said goodbye to one of my coworkers. I kind of wanted to give a hug goodbye, b/c I do that for all of my friends, but I hesitated and couldn't do it. So I just walked by, smiled and told him to enjoy his first Christmas with his newborn baby. He told us to have a good new year and smiled. I smiled back and maintained contact for a few seconds, but he was still smiling. Don't know why but I couldn't hold eye contact. I continued to smile but I kept glancing downwards, then back up again as I was walking by. He kept smiling though. My eye contact remained sporadic (if that makes sense). What impression do you think this gave him? Also, why do you think he kept smiling?

I need to come up with a very witty remark.....? Tomorrow is my last day at work (I'm moving) and I cannot STAND my coworker (she's new, she's rude, she's nasty, etc) and she'll be coming by right before I leave to say "goodbye" (don't know what the point in that is but whatever!). She has this nasty habbit of leaving, 'Chores' for me (she's not my boss) to do when I work and I know she's planning on leaving one for tomorrow. While I've never done the crap she's asked me to, i know she'll probably call me on it when she sees that I haven't done a damn thing she wanted me to. What's a smartass and whitty way I can respond when she asks me why I didn't do her little "chore" list???? If it helps, I plan to hang out, Read Harry Potter and deal with customers tomorrow...nothing more. :)

Did I make a mistake adding my Xmanager on facebook? Did I make a mistake adding my Xmanager on facebook? Ok so me and my manager kissed about 8 months ago. Afterwards we hung out once more for a little with a bunch of people and i declined his offer to come hang out with all the people from work> However at work he kind of acted like nothing happened for 7 months even though we still kinda flirted. I found out that he left the branch to another. so i didnt get to say goodbye. I saw two of my other coworkers added him as a friend on face book and he accepted so I added him as a friend today? He did not accept yet. But I was wondering if what I did was kind of creepy and innappropriate because he was my manager? Do you think I shouldnt have done that? 10 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.

Is this cheating or just a very friendly relationship? There's a female coworker with whom I've worked for a number of years. Lately we arrive to work at the same time and leave together (we live in a city, public transportation). Occasionally we have lunch. Recently we had lunch on a holiday, the goodbye took forever since we kept chatting and included a hug. My marriage is on the rocks (but no one outside knows it). She's single. So, is this cheating or just a very friendly relationship?

Please help - my coworker is on her deathbed, I don't know what to do....? My poor coworker is, literally, on her deathbed. I've always liked her a great deal but am not friends outside of work. Part of me, of course, would like to go say goodbye but I've heard her room is full of family and friends... I feel like I would very much be intruding and, honestly, feel embarrassed just thinking about it. I want to be respectful but I don't want to intrude on something so private. Really appreciate any advice you can give, thank you.

Need help winning my love back :(? I apologize in advance for the long question, but it's not a bad read, and if you really want just skip to the TL;DR. I've been dating this girl for about a year now, and about 2 years on and off in total. I've known her since high school and now we go to the same college. We got out of school almost a month ago and we were perfectly happy and in love; however she took a job at school over the summer and I decided to stay home thinking I would visit her twice a week. During the first week I couldn't visit her because she was in orientation and training, but that was fine, I thought we could handle being a week a part. Big mistake. I get a call about 5 days in to her first week, she's crying and tells me that she feels guilty because she isn't missing me and enjoying the excitement at work, so she jumps to the conclusion that she doesn't love me as much as she thought. Whatever I thought, it's okay not to be thinking of me 24/7 and having fun while you're at it, we all have our alone times, it doesn't mean your love isn't as strong. I wasn't too worried about this, but then the next day she tells me that she isn't happy with me, and that she no longer loves me, finally she tells me we should go on a break. Keep in mind I know she's not cheating, I know this girl very well and she always confesses things she feels bad about, for the sake of advice trust me that she isn't seeing anyone behind my back. Anyways, she tells me she wants to go on break and not see me 'til the end of the summer, but I manage to convince her to let me see her at the end of training as planned to "say goodbye." This was last night. I show up with flowers, some sentimental stuff I wrote, and I made her a cute slide show of pictures and happy memories of us, thinking that if she remembers the fun and good memories we shared she wouldn't feel this way anymore. We talk for about three hours, but I'm not getting anywhere, so I decide to use passion instead of words. I started kissing her, she wouldn't kiss back at first, but then one thing led to another and we started making out and slept together, but she only gets mad at herself for "getting my hopes up." This is where it get's really frustrating. One of the main reasons (about 80% of why she's not happy with me I'd say) is that I'm not social enough with her family or her friends. I'm not incapable of being social, I'm just typically quiet around certain people. After we slept together one of her coworkers (female) and new friend invites her over, and my girlfriend decides to use this as a test. If I could show her that I can be social with her new friends she would consider staying with me. The "test" went fairly well I thought, I talked, I made jokes, it's not important, the point is I did well. Unfortunately, I messed up at this point, and I decided to go through her text messages on her phone (something we both did to one another while dating) and she gets mad at me. I read a single text that she sent to this coworker saying "I'm gonna bring over my boyfriend, we're trying to work things out, tell Jimmy not to say anything." Jimmy is someone I know is gay, and is like a buddy to her whom she vents to about me. I didn't press on about this text message as she was mad enough, and I didn't really care what she told this guy about me. (He was also at the coworker's place, if that wasn't clear). Back at my girlfriends place however, she tells me it was a mistake and that she still wants a break, but this time she agrees to just make it a week and a half. Usually I could convince her to change her mind, but she was adamant, she tells me she needs a week and a half to clear her mind and see if I'm right for her. She's also swearing that it had nothing to do with the cellphone incident so I'm totally confused... FINALLY, TL;DR: My question is this: because we are still texting and phoning each other daily, what kinds of things can I say to make her want to be with me? How can I convince her to stay with me? Are there any romantic gestures that could work? Please keep in mind that this job is also stressing her out like crazy, which is adding injury to this because it doesn't give her time to think fondly of me. Also, I don't want to wait a week and a half, because the last week that I didn't see her didn't go over well... So I'm just terrified that she'll forget me and move on :( We have other problems, of course, the two other major ones are religious differences (she's deeply Christian, and I'm an atheist), and I supposedly lack ambition. I can't remedy either of these two problems; in both cases, she informs me that if I were to make any changes in those two parts of my personality it would be disingenuous and only to make her feel better. So yeah, I could really use some advice, I really love this girl and I can't live without her. Yes, I do want her to be happy, but it's hard to let go, I'm sure you all can sympathize. I'll give her her space, but the problem as I see it lies in the fact that shes at this new exciting job with a bunch of new exciting people who remind her how of some of my faults and drawbacks. I'm convinced that if I could just remind of her of the love we BOTH shared just a damned week ago, she'd take me back... sigh... --- Thanks you guys actually made me feel a little better :), specifically avenue-27. She still refers to me as her best friend, and she assures me that no matter what happens after this summer that I can fill that position if I want to.

On your deathbed, wouldn't it be cool if everyone you've met in your whole life came to visit you? Imagine if everyone you knew came all the way to say thank you and say their final goodbyes to you. People like relatives, childhood friends, school classmates, study partners, romance crushes, bullies, college roommates, former girlfriends/boyfriends, teachers, professors, coworkers at your former workplaces, barbers, doctors, grocers, waiters, store clerks, bus driver, etc. Would you like it? Doesn't everyone deserve have the right to have that before they die?

Is is stressful to be too nice? About a month ago, I got a job working as an administrative asst at a front office. I found out from my Manager that the person who had the job before me was fired because she didn't say hello and smile to coworkers. Because of this, I try extra hard to be nice and friendly to everyone even though some people I click with better than others. I think this is getting to me. I feel forced to say good morning, say hello throughout the day, smile, talk, say goodbye, etc to everyone. I consider myself a nice person, but is there such a thing as too nice? Can it take its toll? What should I do? I've been there a month now and it would be weird to suddenly change my personality, but I don't know if I can upkeep this "fake" always happy personality either. What to do? Thanks.

Why would a married woman want me to like her? I encountered a woman at work, who flirted with me every few weeks, because, I avoid her. Keep in mind, that we already flirted back and forth a few times for years. Well, last year near the copy machine she said 'John, you forgot me on 'Valentine's Day,' Surprisingly, I tried to explain to her that the reason why was because, she was married. But, she continued on saying that 'I'm your girlfriend.' By the way one of my male coworkers noticed this, and try to encourage me to chat, with her some more, but, I hold back. This year, I decided to give her a small valentine's gift anyway, because she made an excuse to say goodbye to me, and was very nice to me--compliment me, whenever I decide to interact with her. If she's already married, why would a woman make such a scene?

Dating a single mother of a 13 yr old who doesn't live with her? I met this wonderful woman at work. After we had lunch and dinner with her coworkers, I sort of came to like her and asked her out. She seemed surprised at first and didn't say yes but later she asked me where I wanted to go with her. Since then, we'd had some dates on weekend and after work. At work, she often comes to my desk for help and emails me with some personal/affectionate touch. We also talk on the phone a lot. (usually 2-3 hours) I thought we were really moving forward, so on one date, I kissed her when we got really close and looked at each other for a few seconds. She looked surprised, but at goodbye, she french kissed me. Next day, I asked her if she would be my girl. She said she wasn't sure. She confirmed I was more than a friend and I was a wonderful person. She sees her son only every second week. She's 38 and I'm 30 (never married). She also doesnt wanna tell her friends about us. We still have dates (holding hands with kisses), but I dont know where this is going. More details: She says she likes seeing me at work and that my simple emails make her feel happy. Outside we look like just another couple, but she still cannot answer my question about becoming my gf. She neither wants to come to my place alone nor lets me into her place. A while ago, she said I could meet her son and if he gets along well with me... But that hasn't happened yet because we've had schedule conflicts. I think I should take time and go at her pace, but do you think she thinks I might hurt not only her but her son if this becomes a serious relationship and ends? I enjoy every moment with her and i know she feels the same. Otherwise she would stop going out with me, right? In the beginning, I was only interested, but really after she kissed me back and french kissed me that day, i thought her feelings were the same as mine. We've only known each other 2 months and this seems to make her worried as well.

Do these women sound crazy to you? I work around a bunch of ghetto fabulous women. this one woman she say "thank you father everyday" out loud. I asked her why she says that and she looks at me. I guess she calls herself being spiritual and all. But spiritual people are usually at peace with themselve but she is nasty 24/7. She has this passive aggressie attitude , tries to get her other ghetto coworkers to be against me. She was nice a couple of weeks ago, after i had a talk wither friend about her lack of professionalism , the woman isv giving me the silent treatment. She doesn't say good morning or goodbye. She just sits there with an attitude. When I ask her something, she tries to act like she doesn't hear me till I raise my voice loud enough that it'll seem like its impossible for her to have not heard me. When I say ghetto, I mean ghetto. I was with talking to someone today, and this other woman came by my desk and burped 3times. so gross . Their mannerism is disgusting. when I'm on the phone, they group around talking loud, slamming the drawers and this happens when I'm doing business with someone. what should I do?

boy troubles... need advice? so ive been hanging out with this guy alot for like 2 months. but lately he seems disinterested. maybe im jumping to conclusions? like the first month we say each other every day. one night i told him i wanted to be his and he said idk if hes ready and i said well idk if i am either. and he said well then i want you to be mine... but this was 3 wks into it. but now it seems like i barely hange out with him anymore. more like 1-2 a wk . and it seems like im always asking if he wants to hange out. but then he does stuff when were together that make me think otherwise. like for example last time we hung out he played angel by shaggy and falling by alicia keys. and said u didnt think i hada soft side. then when i said goodbye from my balcony he blew a kiss and i blew one back he then caught it and kissed his hand. i see him on his breaks. and i dont wanna come off as being clingy ... when he walks back he sometimes holds my hands and kisses me in public where im sure his coworkers can see. hes always holding my hand and it does seem like he likes me more then just a friend. weve kissed and then some. but like ive said we dont see each other as often. he doesnt appear to be the type that would cheat, but then again were not dating ... hell idk what we are. i would assume were just friends with benifits. i want to be with him and be his but im afraid of being honest with him bc i fear that hell turn me down and say i dont want nothing right now. i mean its happend several times before ( 2 different times with 2 guys).. i know hes been hurt before. and im pretty sure thats part of the reason. its eating me up inside. im really starting to like him a shit load. and he knows it but it kills me that i cant be honest. and we talked before and he told me he would tell me if hes upset with me. and during halloween he was out of town so i invited this guy to hange out with me and a couple friends . hes new in town and doesnt have much friends. but i felt like hella weird about it like i was cheating on the other guy. which i wasnt bc A) were tech, not dating. and i didnt do anything. nothing was there. and all i could do is think of my guy. i need some advice. help plz! also some ppl have called him my bf infront of him and he never reacted like omfg what did u say? and the girl who hooked us up told him several times that she said oo i just saw ur girlfriend jessica ( thats me!) and he would say oo yea??? where did u see her? . the girl who hooked us up knows weve been seeing each other.. he has also introduced me to his dad. and i know his mom already, she comes into my work alot. but im not sure if she knows we hange out. although when i found out they were related i mentioned that he seemed like a nice guy ( before we started hanging out).

Did I scare him with this? I had a crush on this guy at my internship. He would always look at me and smile and say hi a lot. We talked sometimes, but we didn't get a chance to really bond. I wrote this to him in email: Hi, I had a chance to say goodbye to the other interns. Since I didn't see you, I just wanted to say 'bye and good luck with school. Hit me up on facebook! He wrote: ok thanks, I was at lunch with my coworkers today. Good Luck with school and see around Any thoughts?

What do you think about his email? I had a crush on this guy at my internship. He would always look at me and smile and say hi a lot. We talked sometimes, but we didn't get a chance to really bond. I wrote this to him in email: Hi, I had a chance to say goodbye to the other interns. Since I didn't see you, I just wanted to say 'bye and good luck with school. Hit me up on facebook! He wrote: ok thanks, I was at lunch with my coworkers today. Good Luck with school and see around Any thoughts?

Is there anyway to ignore/not speak to someone without being rude? I hate one of my coworkers, he tells the same stories over and over, he is crude, he is lazy and he can't be trusted. I have been dealing with him by not spending any time hanging out with him or chatting with him. I haven't been rude, I let him know everything he needs to know, I say hello and goodbye when I see him and all that but he complained to my boss that I'm being rude to him because I don't hang out with him and my boss told me I had an attitude problem because I wasn't 'hanging out' with him and that we need to work together. Anyone see anyway around this? I don't give him the silent treatment, I just don't stand around and shoot the shit with him. He really sets me off, so I don't want to talk to him. Any ideas?

i need advice on what to do about him? so ive been hanging out with this guy alot for like 2 months. but lately he seems disinterested. maybe im jumping to conclusions? like the first month we say each other every day. one night i told him i wanted to be his and he said idk if hes ready and i said well idk if i am either. and he said well then i want you to be mine... but this was 3 wks into it. but now it seems like i barely hange out with him anymore. more like 1-2 a wk . and it seems like im always asking if he wants to hange out. but then he does stuff when were together that make me think otherwise. like for example last time we hung out he played angel by shaggy and falling by alicia keys. and said u didnt think i hada soft side. then when i said goodbye from my balcony he blew a kiss and i blew one back he then caught it and kissed his hand. i see him on his breaks. and i dont wanna come off as being clingy ... when he walks back he sometimes holds my hands and kisses me in public where im sure his coworkers can see. hes always holding my hand and it does seem like he likes me more then just a friend. weve kissed and then some. but like ive said we dont see each other as often. he doesnt appear to be the type that would cheat, but then again were not dating ... hell idk what we are. i would assume were just friends with benifits. i want to be with him and be his but im afraid of being honest with him bc i fear that hell turn me down and say i dont want nothing right now. i mean its happend several times before ( 2 different times with 2 guys).. i know hes been hurt before. and im pretty sure thats part of the reason. its eating me up inside. im really starting to like him a **** load. and he knows it but it kills me that i cant be honest. and we talked before and he told me he would tell me if hes upset with me. and during halloween he was out of town so i invited this guy to hange out with me and a couple friends . hes new in town and doesnt have much friends. but i felt like hella weird about it like i was cheating on the other guy. which i wasnt bc A) were tech, not dating. and i didnt do anything. nothing was there. and all i could do is think of my guy. i need some advice. help plz!also some ppl have called him my bf infront of him and he never reacted like omfg what did u say? and the girl who hooked us up told him several times that she said oo i just saw ur girlfriend jessica ( thats me!) and he would say oo yea??? where did u see her? . the girl who hooked us up knows weve been seeing each other..he has also introduced me to his dad. and i know his mom already, she comes into my work alot. but im not sure if she knows we hange out. although when i found out they were related i mentioned that he seemed like a nice guy ( before we started hanging out).